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Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **Closed**

Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

I was able to leave my parents. It's my husband I cannot leave so I know what you mean Jacques

Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

That's great that you can feel okay with passing your studies and not demand perfection.
Being able to let go of fearing parental judgement is a big thing and can take years. Ithink I've got there with my dad

Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

Thankyou @happygirl, it is nice to know someone knows what it is like,  the fear is so crippling to me i have not been able to leave the house in 14 years, it has also expanded to other fears, fear of people, fear of driving, fear of answering a call, i have not used a phone in 7 years.  The more control the fear has over me the more it takes.

Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

Fear/anxiety can often prevent us from doing or saying something which we are confident is appropriate. However, the consequences of not doing/saying this often leads to a type of depression and disappointed with ourselves - which just seems to feed the anxiety/fear cycle.

Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

I don't think you are scared of people. You are to alking to people on this forum. Think about that...now we aren't bad are we? I think you are doing well to be talking to us.

Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

Yes, sometimes I get into that downward spiral of fear, avoidance, more self-doubt and depression. I'm so glad I've had great support from community mental health workers and from a couple of wonderful psychologists over the years, who have helped me break the negative cycle and create positive ones sometimes. Doing something that I was afraid of and having it go okay is such a great feeling!

Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

resilience is clearly the key - how good would it be if you could buy that of the shelf! Smiley Happy

Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

The Perception Gap is a theory developed by author and Harvard teacher, David Ropeik, which he wrote about in 'How Risky Is it Really?' which is specifically about looking at and analysing Risk.

In a nutshell, it's acknowledging that sometimes we are more afraid, or less afraid, than the evidence suggests. So for example, people may have an intense fear about an asteroid hitting earth and destroying everything. But if we look at the facts around this.. it's highly unlikely.

It's a mismatch of our reaction of fear, to the likelihood of the outcome. But it's very easy for us to say 'LOOK AT THE FACTS' - that's hard... it's like dismissing your feelings... it's hard to be objective.

Perception gap theory looks at skills in education and effective risk communication, that can narrow the 'gap' between your perception and the likelihood of that scenario playing out.

Managing the risks of The Perception Gap is not just about making the facts clear. That's not enough. There will still be risks that need to be managed because we sometimes get risk wrong.

I found a quote that I really like. It's from Princeton neuroscientist Sam Wang:

The brain really is a survival machine. It's not there to perform some sort of super computing operation and leading to some calculation of Pi to 100 digits. It tells you lies. Your brain misrepresents. It distorts. All in the interest of helping you survive.

 

Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

I can talk to people on hear, but i have not spoken to a person face-to-face in 14 years, yes a quick yes/no but not a proper conversation, i am always filled with such dred, i can't even remember talking to a person if i am forced to.  even now i am shaking and later tonight i will get panic attacks from talking to you all tonight.

Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

Jacques hope you have some support for those panic attacks

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