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14 Jul 2015 07:37 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:37 PM
I was able to leave my parents. It's my husband I cannot leave so I know what you mean Jacques
14 Jul 2015 07:39 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:39 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:40 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:40 PM
Thankyou @happygirl, it is nice to know someone knows what it is like, the fear is so crippling to me i have not been able to leave the house in 14 years, it has also expanded to other fears, fear of people, fear of driving, fear of answering a call, i have not used a phone in 7 years. The more control the fear has over me the more it takes.
14 Jul 2015 07:40 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:40 PM
Fear/anxiety can often prevent us from doing or saying something which we are confident is appropriate. However, the consequences of not doing/saying this often leads to a type of depression and disappointed with ourselves - which just seems to feed the anxiety/fear cycle.
14 Jul 2015 07:44 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:44 PM
I don't think you are scared of people. You are to alking to people on this forum. Think about that...now we aren't bad are we? I think you are doing well to be talking to us.
14 Jul 2015 07:46 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:46 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:49 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:49 PM
resilience is clearly the key - how good would it be if you could buy that of the shelf!
14 Jul 2015 07:49 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:49 PM
The Perception Gap is a theory developed by author and Harvard teacher, David Ropeik, which he wrote about in 'How Risky Is it Really?' which is specifically about looking at and analysing Risk.
In a nutshell, it's acknowledging that sometimes we are more afraid, or less afraid, than the evidence suggests. So for example, people may have an intense fear about an asteroid hitting earth and destroying everything. But if we look at the facts around this.. it's highly unlikely.
It's a mismatch of our reaction of fear, to the likelihood of the outcome. But it's very easy for us to say 'LOOK AT THE FACTS' - that's hard... it's like dismissing your feelings... it's hard to be objective.
Perception gap theory looks at skills in education and effective risk communication, that can narrow the 'gap' between your perception and the likelihood of that scenario playing out.
Managing the risks of The Perception Gap is not just about making the facts clear. That's not enough. There will still be risks that need to be managed because we sometimes get risk wrong.
I found a quote that I really like. It's from Princeton neuroscientist Sam Wang:
The brain really is a survival machine. It's not there to perform some sort of super computing operation and leading to some calculation of Pi to 100 digits. It tells you lies. Your brain misrepresents. It distorts. All in the interest of helping you survive.
14 Jul 2015 07:49 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:49 PM
I can talk to people on hear, but i have not spoken to a person face-to-face in 14 years, yes a quick yes/no but not a proper conversation, i am always filled with such dred, i can't even remember talking to a person if i am forced to. even now i am shaking and later tonight i will get panic attacks from talking to you all tonight.
14 Jul 2015 07:51 PM
14 Jul 2015 07:51 PM
Jacques hope you have some support for those panic attacks
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