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18 Apr 2017 08:34 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:34 PM
they are really great hints @Zoe7
18 Apr 2017 08:34 PM - edited 18 Apr 2017 08:36 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:34 PM - edited 18 Apr 2017 08:36 PM
@Smc @utopia I find I want to help others more than myself, but I think that it's actually not for selfless reasons; rather it's me avoiding having to deal with my own issues by focusing on someone else's. Denial.
Note that I'm only talking about my own situation when I say helping others is not for selfless reasons, not talking about anyone else's motivations here.
18 Apr 2017 08:34 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:34 PM
It's all very serenity prayer....
@NikNik and anyone - it's all about knowing when to act, knowing when to accept and understanding the difference.
18 Apr 2017 08:36 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:36 PM
@Spookytookims - that's a big ask.
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
I have a question that I would like some honest answers from. How do you turn off or away when someone is 'drowning' on the forum. Many of us find crisis lines often fail us. How do you work out how to switch off from posts of people in distress?
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
There has been a lot of tips on how to show support online while maintaining boundaries.
Does anyone have any tips for the offline world?
Some that come to mind for me are:
Any other offline tips - particularly for those who live with the person they support?
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
@Smc It is most frustrating when they won't or can't even give advice on what to do when you tell them whats going on at home and they just tell you to bring them in if it happens again. Sending my housemate/boyfriend home with little to no support but me. Even after I have told them many times i am at my limit and if he doesn't get more help soon, help will no longer be needed by his own action.
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:37 PM
@soul yes it certainly is. Lifelong journey probably.
18 Apr 2017 08:38 PM
18 Apr 2017 08:38 PM
Smc It is most frustrating when they won't or can't even give advice on what to do when you tell them whats going on at home and they just tell you to bring them in if it happens again. Sending my housemate/boyfriend home with little to no support but me. Even after I have told them many times i am at my limit and if he doesn't get more help soon, help will no longer be needed by his own action.
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