Mum Severe Anxiety / Depression +++

[Former-Member]

They're beautiful @Faith-and-Hope, thank you. I had a lovely check in by two people irl who were concerned for me. Lovely chats. Looks like I might house sit in Sydney for Christmas, get to see more of my parents while maintaining my own space, and mums (she needs that). Just tried to ring dad but he can't find the right buttons on the chordless phone now. I can hear him but him not me 😞 Bros said mum wasn't admitted but sent home (told them Sunday wouldnt work drr). Wed I organised the Comm Nurse to visit tomorrow, hope she does. Bro said mum doesn't want any phone calls tonight, too tired... hmm, but she talked with him 😞 They make me sad on so many levels. Never mind. Hooe youre ok? Its hard to track / find where you post your journey. Thanks to you and @Former-Member here, even thought I'd like you to say more. But I know my caring is a fraction of yours 🙂

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member

Your caring is not a fraction of, it is different to and we I think as each have a glimpse into each others stories, we see others feel the same losses that we have, despite their situations being so very different from our own.

When I think of you I admire and am strengthened by the courage that you show despite your own health issues and heartaches. I see someone who practices their values, I see how you continue to chose to show love even when it is not convenient or easy.

House sitting sounds like a really good option where you can be about but have your own space and bravo for organising nurse.

Take care
Darcy

[Former-Member]

Thank you @Former-Member, tears, means a lot 💜

[Appleblossom]

Hi @Former-Member

It looks like you and @PeppiPatty

and I are all floating around in the wee hours.

Its 3.45 here.

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Former-Member

It'sme, PeppiPatty ( forgot my name ) 

Can you write how you are ?

It's important that you keep some distance inside yourself when you deal with your Mum and brother.....

Only because it can be all consuming and you need to be very present for your son and your life at your home. 

I mean..... engage but don't engage ? 

How else can I say it ? See your brother's woes as a hmmm from you. Does that make sense ? So you can still be compassionate but more available for your son. 

I'm thinking about you @Former-Member

@Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Owlunar @Appleblossom

[Former-Member]

H @PeppiPatty, yes, I'll get there ta. Keep falling asleep since I got home at 6pm. Its 3:30am now.. I just had a snack (tea). Thanks. @Appleblossom, lovely long post before which has disappeared (caæn't imagine why). It does me yo d to hear your story about your mum thanks 😉

Grr, i keep nodding off,  dropping the phone. Wakes me with a jult - hitting the floor. Betta go 💜 thanks

[Former-Member]

Hello my friends,
Got a tx from bro saying mum having more fluid drained again today. It builds up quickly poor mum. Shes too tired to talk to me these days (guess im grouped in with the invisible masses now), but understandable - shes fighting! in 'survival mode' Not sure how dad is, can't get through on the phone & mum & bros don't help him / me with that, even though I've asked. Will try again though today, maybe, even with the early dementia he's worried for mum. 

Bro said mum called an ambulance to take her in this time so she can get processed / admitted quicker, hmm. She's not silly. Hope they put a shunt in as this is taxing her heart.

Nobody's staying with dad this time, I'm unable to go atm. . The boys won't sleep there but plan to pop in a couple times a day. This is an accident waiting to happen. Poor dad. I don't know what more to do. It stresses me so much.

And I'm also missing my girl.

Trying to brace myself to go to a Christmas lunch with the Quilting Group 😞. So Tired. Locked myself into an apt with physio after so that's a good motive to get going as maybe, try sort out this Rt arm.

Thanks again for your support guys. I've saved your special posts to my phone & read them when I feel alone - thank you
💜💜💜

[Former-Member]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope, I see you liking away there 😀 how are you?

[Faith-and-Hope]

I'm doing okay ...... have just experienced a shift in wh's attitude this morning ..... 🎉 PTL ..... but it's like bathing a cat to get to these breakthroughs ...... nursing the scratches for a while ......

Hugs for you @Former-Member ....... mindful that it's your girl's birthday week.

💜💐💕💜💐💕💜

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member, mum doesn't like services in the house but dad has a shower nurse in the mornings (M-F) and a 1/2hr physio x2 week & once a fortnight a cleaner for 1.5hrs. Its dads bad memory loss & mobility that worries me on his own. Once I caught him rading the fridge - yoghart with giant chunks of mould 😞   - he didn't seem to 'get' it was wrong. The two bros mum let's in both have ParanoidSz, drugz, gambling... I know I should be greatful for what they ARE doing for mum & dad, but they don't like / get on with dad (mum says thats because dad doesnt talk to them), and it all just worries me sick. After all, I am the big sister.