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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hi @Maryjune - yes I am so accident prone to be honest. Lucky I have injured myself to only bruises and nothing more serious. Am just clumsy. Do have a safe flight and be thinking of you xx 

Just reached back from down south. Gotta turn on my work laptop to do a bit but lacking the motivation. But I have to so I will....shortly. Was such a great day just enjoying nature. Needed it thoroughly. 

Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hey @Shaz51

How are you going?

Mr Darcy was a bit better today, realised he hasn't been drinking enough so got him to up the fluids which helped a little. He had a friend call round too so that perked him up a bit.

Am trying to find some voluntary work for Mr Darcy that is meaningful for him, this has proven difficult. I have made an enquiry today to a place that would make a world of difference to him even if for a few hours a week but am not holding my breath.

Although he is anxious I am hoping things will be better tonight, it is looking promising that he wont start, have had three nights of listening him crying himself to sleep.

Darcy

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Hello @Former-MemberHeartHeart

I am going ok , thank you

Hubby is a bit anxious but is ok , lot better than sunday

He Finds he can not say "No " to new jobs , when he says yes he starts streessing out

@Mazarita, @Faith-and-Hope, I talked to hubby yesterday that we need to say no to new jobs because It is no good him and for me

Ha ha @Mazarita, that overthinking I did at 2 am , , well , when I spoke to him , he said ok --Smiley LOL

Hello @Anony18, @Appleblossom, @Former-Member, @Owlunar, @PeppiPatty

Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

hello @Shaz51

Just having a thought when reading about Mr Shaz being unable to say no to a job then  later feeling stressed.

Do you keep an appointment diary?

How does Mr Shaz relate to keeping an appointment book, or even calendar with a large space to write on each day?

If he could see the appointments for the day clearly, even if you write next to each appointment approximately how long it will take.

Would he be able to recognise on any given day there is enough work for that day?

If it is purely related to work, he might get into the habit of looking at it each morning and be able to tell himself yes this is my job, I have 2 jobs today.

only a suggestion, you might already have something in place that works.

you look after him so well. xxx

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@Shaz51
Hope you have a good day. Good to hear Mr Shaz not so anxious.
Hard to balance need to work ...

@Determined
Hope your day goes well too.


Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Sending special thoughts @Mohilll

Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

hello @Former-Member @Shaz51

I feel sad to read that Mr Darcy is struggling and something is upsetting him so much every day.

This would be so hard to witness. Knowing that you dont have an immediate answer for him, a solution makes it so much more difficult.

There should be a database set up with volunteering opportunities at each council.

self-worth is so important for every single human being.

Keep searching, asking, someone has to listen and hear eventually

makes me feel so cross

take carexxx

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Hey @Former-Member
Something that has the right fit for him will come up at the right time. Perhaps I need to let it go, let him heal a bit more, when he is ready things will happen.
Darcy

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Hello @Former-Member

I sense that you will know the path to follow. You know Mr Darcy so well.

Don't let anyone stop you in your search for more understanding and support for you both.

xxxx

Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hey @Former-Member
Will continue to pursue understanding ...
Extra prayers for you this week.
Darcy

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