Battles

[MissinTooth]

@Dreamy yeah, but I'm kind worried about what tonight will bring for me. All the distractions because I'm still feeling kind of churned up, but what do you do tonight when  it all goes quiet...

@MJG017 Hi there. 

[Dreamy]

@MissinTooth yeah it's hard when things go quiet. I'll be around though so we can always chat to keep ourselves distracted 😊

[RiverSeal]

Hey @Dreamy, nice to see you around on the Forums today!

Not sure if you are aware but we are referring Forums Members to the Guided Recovery program for 1:1 phone support. 

We acknowledge that you have shared concerns in the forums about changes to how SANE is providing support through our 1800 Support Line. As shared in the recent post {HERE} we would like to extend to you an opportunity to join our evidence based 15 week Guided Service program.

This is usually only available in certain postcodes, however access is being extended to our Forums community. We understand this isn't always suitable for people so you can check out the Guided Service here - Welcome to SANE’s Guided Recovery and decide if you want to pursue it.

Whenever you are ready, you can chat to SANE’s mental health support workers who can assist with a referral, simply call 1800 187 263 or chat on the webchat at sane.org and let them know that you were referred from forums. They can help you with questions and check things like whether you have enrolled before or not. They're available 10am – 8pm Mon-Fri.

It's a great space to talk with a Counsellor or Peer Support Worker!

Thank you

RiverSeal 

[MJG017]

@Dreamy 

I'm sure there's a whole lot more to it that you can't go in to.  To not have people to talk about it with just must make it so much worse.  I don't know how I would get through without the few people I do have to talk to about my situation.  But at the same time, it doesn't fix anything, it just makes it more bearable.  Sometimes.

If it was fine with your kids not so long ago, then something seems to have changed.  Kid's aren't stupid, but they do struggle to understand life and how complicated it can be.  If your own mother is trying to turn them against you, then they may believe it for a while, but they will eventually start asking questions.  So try not to give up hope.  They will get older and be able to make their own decisions.  Not that it makes this time now any less painful.  If they even have a fraction of your strength, resilience and compassion... well have faith in them that they will always know how much they mean to you... even if its hard to understand for them at the moment.

[Dreamy]

Thanks @RiverSeal, I am aware of this. But it's just not an option for me at the moment. 

[MJG017]

Hi there @MissinTooth

I'd ask how you're doing, but we try to avoid asking that in this thread... we generally know.  Getting through that quiet at night is something we've talked quite a bit about... it can be so hard.  It's nice to have another person here though.  We do try to support each other as much as we can because we know how hard it can get.

[Dreamy]

@MJG017 it would just be nice to be able to talk to someone about it all but instead I have to bottle everything up and we all know how well that works out. 

My son is ok with me and is more than happy to come and see me so that's a relief but the other 2 well I just don't even know what the problem is. As adults I would expect them to communicate and try to resolve the problem rather than just doing this pathetic sh!t. Maybe it's just me that's in the wrong with everything as per usual, honestly who knows. I've tried speaking up to find out what's going on but I just get excuses rather than the truth. 

Anyway that's enough about that. Only getting myself more and more worked up trying to get my brain around it. 

What have you been up to today? 

[MJG017]

@Dreamy 

My partners parents came over so I've been hiding down the back.  I'm just not up to being ignored today.  But I've just found out we're all going up to her brothers place for a BBQ.  So I'm just mentally preparing for an evening of "let's talk about anything but that!". Or even "let's to to anyone except him".  Either way, it's the last thing I need right now.  I have made plans to catch up with one of the guys from the support group tomorrow afternoon so hopefully that will get my mind off 'home stuff'.

[Dreamy]

@MissinTooth @MJG017 this hit me right in the feels scrolling through my Facebook feed.