General chit chat

[Faith-and-Hope]

Thanks @Mazarita ..... 😊💕

WH thought he had passed a kidney stone he was suffering with last night, but apparently not ....

[Mazarita]

@Faith-and-Hope, I've heard it's extremely painful to pass kidney stone. 

[Faith-and-Hope]

I have never had one @Mazarita, but WH has had a dozen or so .... and yes, I believe they are very painful.

[Spookytookims]

Oh @Faith-and-Hope  That's really not good.  My Dad had a lot of trouble with those, so much pain.  The doctor's told him it's the nearest thing a man gets to the pain of child birth. So I imagine it must be pretty damn painful but with a booby prize at the end,  

[Faith-and-Hope]

The kids tease him that he has given birth more times than I have @Spookytookims .... 😏

He has a good sense of humour, (around the mood regulation issues associated with the e.d.) .... but it might also be a spin off from his tightly controlled daily-repeat diet that is contributing to it .... dunno.

The c/s behaviour will be messing with his body chemistry.  He is in danger of diabetes and stomach ulcers apparently, so it wouldn't surprise me.  It's still hard watching him suffer, whatever the cause, like when he is exercising injured .... :face_with_rolling_eyes:

Waddayagonnado ??

[Spookytookims]

yeah @Faith-and-Hope my dad ended up having to move countries, that's actually how we wound up in Australia.  They told him if he stayes where we were he'd likely have them ongoing.  They were right. after we moved he didn't have them any more.

yes must be very hard watching him siffer, I know it was sure hard for us with my father because he just was never one to complain and so we knew he must be in so much pain when he was writhing around and moaning...  was quite scary actually, especially being a kid at the time.  I know my mother felt pretty helpless watching and not being able to do anything until the doctors decided one way or the other if he would pass one or they had to operate.  So glad when it all stopped, was such a relief for all of us, of course more so for dad.

[Faith-and-Hope]

That's where I am suffering a degree of compassion fatigue @Spookytookims, as are the kids .... we have watched him jogging (hobbling) on a grossly swollen knee, strapped with an ice pack, with heat rub applied to his leg muscles cos they weren't responding adequately, heat patches on his sore hips, compression pants cos that was supposed to help, in a torrential thunderstorm, cos he couldn't eat the "reward" food assigned to that exercise activity unless he completed the 10km ....., one of the two such sessions in the day ..... interspersed with time in the gym lifting heavy weights with a pulled shoulder muscle strapped .... again, to be able to eat the designated foods .....

Kidney stones become just another trauma amongst the rest of them, without meaning to be uncaring. The kids and I had to learn to switch off within the first couple of years, amidst all his temper tantrums and marshalling across 14 hour days.

Somewhere in there is the husband and father we love, but he's still lost to us at the moment, unfortunately.

[Former-Member]

Oooo Cooties, I always though that was a symptom of The dreaded Lurgy! 😄

[Spookytookims]

@Former-Member Maybe you should post this on Turtle Island thread, in case others don't know why I So named the episode.

@Faith-and-Hope I can 100% understand the fatigue.  It's hard when boundaries keep getting pushed to sustain the same sense of compassion and sympathy.  It gets very draining and frustrating to maintain without fatiguing.