Let`s Talk -- how was you day today !!

[Former-Member]

Hi @Boo13 - glad your son is still well. Sorry to read of your bullying episode at work - that is no joke. I hope there is someone there at work that you can share your concerns with as that may help ease your anxiety. For me having that support can make all the difference. It's rough when we carry things all alone .

@Shaz51 - the week prior was good but the last couple of days have been rough as my daughter's problems are surfacing again. I suppose it's just one day at a time now. I am worried about her. I shared this as new thread under our stories in the lived experience . Hope your day is going well 🤗

[Shaz51]

sending you lots of hugs @Former-Member, @Boo13 

@Former-Member , if you like to tag me and i will come and have a look xoxo

[Shaz51]

Hello @Carlachris , how are you

[Carlachris]

Dear Shaz and cheer squad. I feel so much of what you are saying. It resonates. The exhaustion, the seeing what’s coming and the continually looking for ways to help our loved ones. We live in the country and I totally understand not wanting to access local MH services. Last thing we need is the town grapevine kicking in and the services offered shall we say minimal. We are in the after stage of coming through a big episode and hubby is feeling much much better like the pressure valve has been released but then I am drained and on edge looking for the first signs of the cycle to begin again. I’m a bit jumpy actually. It always seems to be that way. He is his loving self again “phew”..... big hugs and hope you and your loved ones are doing well. 

[Carlachris]

Hi Shaz, Thankyou for asking. I’m ok. Very washed out and exhausted but living my own life again for now. Out from under the microscope of paranoia for awhile. We seem to have a 3-4 wk cycle of crash burn with a few weeks of relief in between. Happy gentle times for now.

loving this slightly cooler weather. X how are you?

[Shaz51]

We seem to have a cycle of crash burn with a few weeks of relief in between. --sending you knowing hugs @Carlachris 

seemsto be ok today but have got that feeling of a calm before the storm feeling happening so just don`t know when it will happen

[Carlachris]

I know the feeling well. Sometimes I can get on top before the behavior starts by getting out and about with hubby but nowhere there are people. He gets intense hatred and opinionated about people looking at him which can be very awful. If I judge it right I can delay the onset. Not often but it is such a relief when I can. Then I am able to get through to him that he is asking too much of me ,I am not a trained psych and I can’t always be the whipping post. I hope you are able to have something in place to circumvent too much heartache. I understand sending big hugs and a hand to hold.🤝

[Shaz51]

How are you today @Carlachris 

today I can feel it coming , just the comments towards me is a warning to me , thinking people are saying things against him , trying to reassure him that it is ok but his mind has already starting overthinking

[Carlachris]

Oh dear. I understand. With my husband it starts with annoyed with the stupidity of TV. Starts negatively commenting on everything and ruining anything I like to watch. Making himself the center of attention. I never watch anything negative but I realize now it’s not what I watch but the fact that I am not his entire center of the universe. Then the comments as you are experiencing. It can get very degrading at times. I know it’s the MI but still it hurts. It feels so confusing. Then with us he starts interpreting my words differently to what I say. “would you like a roast for dinner?”. Him: why would I ? You should know better”... WTF......so I don’t cook then get acused of not listening to him. He wanted a roast but not when I asked him .... Like I can magically know what he wanted and when. Without explanation. The paranoia then kicks in big time.

The overthinking seems to be a very common problem. Assuming a look on my face is something other than just a smile at the lady at the petrol station or me having to explain things at least 3 times because he is not listening and gets the words in the wrong order. Aspergers like at times.

Look after yourself if you can. You are not alone. I am here on the other side of the screen I know that’s not much but I am listening. Sometimes that helps. Big hugs and warm smiles.

[Shaz51]

sending you Big hugs and warm smiles.too @Carlachris

Yes " would you like meat pie and veges and mushed potato " , no "spaghetti "will be better

when I remind him he say you did not tell me that -- yes I did xx