Newbie's Social Club - Come make some friends!

[Stryk3r83]

I'd.love to find people that I could relate to, maybe learn how they deal with situations that I find extremely difficult. 

Not sure. 

[AuntGlow]

Yes! That's a great idea. Maybe I can tag you in some threads? What is the main theme you'd like to explore? @Stryk3r83 

Also, please type @ and then my name so I don't miss your messages! ✨

[Stryk3r83]

Main theme?

Bpd,  how to cope with loneliness,  overcoming isolation.  

@AuntGlow 

[AuntGlow]

Thank you for sharing this. @Stryk3r83 

There are a lot of conversations surrounding BPD and loneliness on the forums. You could even start your own, if you'd like! I am just thinking that perhaps yourself and @peaceandsafety might be able to connect over this topic. 🫶

[peaceandsafety]

Hey @Stryk3r83 

Thanks for connecting us @AuntGlow 

I get what you mean about the loneliness. I feel this heavily this time of year.
Despite what I do, who I may see throughout the week or may talk to, I still have heavy anxiety that I'll have no contact or comms with everyone as all my friends have their own lives, the guys are all married, kids and the girls have their own things on (primarily family stuff).
I've already achieved this morning and yet, freaking out about what the rest of the weekend will look like.
Not sure if/how this resonates with you but that's a snippet of my internal world.

[Jane351]

It is a difficult time for anyone like us with ptsd.  My two cents worth in regard to family gatherings is to have a time limit in your mind. I dont stay more three hours.  Even that's too long.  I sit in a quite space if possible.  Perhaps if you are a fit person and meet a particular person's place then do a small job outside.  That way you are not constantly just talking to people.  People like to talk about themselves so just listen and nod.

[Stryk3r83]

It's coming up to Xmas and I dont have family or friends to spend some time with.

Being completely alone makes this time extremely difficult 

I have some seriously negative thoughts that I tend to keep to myself and I have to pretend to those around me that im fine. 

Not sure how to get out of this isolation,  but it is hard.