Despair *potential trigger: abuse*

[-karma-]

Hello @Former-Member

you are the expert of your own life. It maybe that you will have to guide the worker, telling them what you would like them to do. Chances are she will be relieved to have direction. Things do not work in isolation, focusing on one area will most likely have an effect in another area. Focus on what seems most important right now, and that you can change.

Although transparency can at times be confirming, (if presented correctly, eg with acknowledgement and empathy), I'm sure her statement had the opposite effect, and was a little unfair.

Give it a go...

the story continues

[PeppiPatty]

"She's not sure how to help me....."

Interesting.

you could see her next time with a list of everything listed in your life. And work out the most important one to focus on.
It's just an idea......
you are the mistress of your own destiny.

a long time ago. 12 years ago, this was my list.

1: Father that hates me
2: mother that yells at me and ridicules
3 son who keeps on collapses, ends up in theatre in hospital
4 high school/ sons
5 oldest son mental ill health issues
6 father pushing me into VERy abusive relationship with bad person
7 paying for therapy
8 work
9 GP not good enough
10 time for myself
11: medication to deal with my own MI
12: my need to do art.

I think that it always good to remember caring for yourself in every circumstance.
A LOT of my list has melted away but there are still some there. I wish I knew this 12 years ago and I could address the most important one straight away.

What can you write for your list ?

[PeppiPatty]

Hey Karma,
How are you? What does transparently mean?

[Former-Member]

Thanks @PeppiPatty and @-karma- 

@hiddenite sorry i kind of highjacked your thread! I just mentioned that the counsellor had said that because i know you are having similar issues with your mental health team. 🙂 Its been a busy day here, but havent gotten much done! Hope that your day has been as restful as possible and that you are getting some positive help. If not, i really hope that you will be able to be going home soon.

Keep going, sitting here with you tonight and holding onto some hope for healing and help for you.

LJ

[Ellie]

Only just got these pics because my computer has been running sooooo slow. All good now fingers crossed.

Such lovely pics. That area is amazing. I used to walk around there when there were no houses in sight and remember it fondly. I wish I'd never moved away from Melbourne. I might also be getting better treatment now, but I can't ever afford to move back, as much as I'd like to.

[Alessandra1992]

Hey @ Ellie
I reckon wherever u live, a bit of Melbourne goes with you! What do you enjoy most about Melbourne? I always lived the cafes and groovy shops in laneways of the city and unexpected places around Melbourne like the new bar on Platform 12 at Flinders St...

[Ellie]

When I drive down to Melbourne, I always get a feeling like I'm coming home and feel quite low when I see it in my mirrors. I love the little shopping boutiques, the sidewalk cafes and especially Lord of the Fries mini-burgers.

I also love the leafy suburbs, the parks and the Dandenongs. In fact I love most of Melbourne. I go down once a month for our BPD support group meetings, so I still get to see a bit of it.

[Former-Member]

I've visited Melbourne a few times, its a nice place, but i don't know it very well. I think Sydney has been my favourite Australian city though, followed by Alice Springs. 

Hi @hiddenite, Karen, I've had a long long long day today, i'm exhausted right to my bones.. im really really hoping that that means that I'll actually sleep tonight! I'm snuggled up in my blanky like usual, now that they kidlets are in bed. Its peaceful and quiet. Hoping you can find some peace in your space and that you know we're here with you.

LJ

[kristin]

Hey @Former-Member

Sorry to hear it's been a hard one. I'm feeling quite shattered. Not entirely sure why. Another too busy week hasn't helped. I hope tomorrow is a better day: for you, for me, for Karen( @hiddenite ), for us all.

Hope for a better day endures...

Kindest regards, Kristin

[Former-Member]

Sitting quietly here with you too @kristin, really hope tomorrow is a calmer day for you to regroup tomorrow. the round about of life goes on 🙂
LJ