Dear Anne,
Oh Anne, please don't put yourself down like that, i do not see you as simple, you are very learned, you read a lot and try to broaden your knowledge, to me that is smart. oh and you are very kind 😄
Yes i have read many books about how the purpetrators have had bad childhoods or they are Anxious or depressed, all the excuses.
I want to tell you a little story, my father was born 2 years after WWII in Germany, his first 18 years where hell, he spent his first day of birth with his mother, the second day he spent at the coal mines because she was forced by the British to go back to work digging coal, by the time he was 7 he was in a boys home because of family disputes, he had a terrible life, but he was the most kindest gentest person, never once yelling at my mother or ever abusing her.
that is one story, mine is one of very little affection, my parents made sure i had every thing i could ever want, but because the both of them came from very strickt households they showed me little affection, i don't think i am abusive or agressive towards women?
What i am trying to say is we are who we want to be, nurture does play a part, but that is why we have a little thing called a brain, we can think for ourselves, we know right from wrong, yes i SH which i know is anger turned inwards, but that affects no one but me.
I know reading about relationships they are very complex, and i have struggled to understand why women go back after being abused or why they don't leave in the first signes of abuse, i have never been in a relationship so i would never judge, i just don't understand that is all.
Anne yo uare a wise woman, please give yourself credit, the things you write about, the people you help with public housing i.e. letter writing, shows you are a very smart lady.
Oh Please give Mr Arlo a cuddle for me 😄
Take care my friend
Jacques
