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21 Mar 2016 12:04 PM
21 Mar 2016 12:04 PM
Did you have any luck with the Synapse service?
http://synapse.org.au/information-services/positive-behaviour-support-techniques.aspx
31 Mar 2016 09:06 PM
31 Mar 2016 09:06 PM
Hi @artee
It's really great to read that you have some space to yourself at the moment in house you're looking after.
I'm concerned, as @Sally flagged, for your safety. It's excellent that your sister is aware what's going on. Is she able to assist with your situation? Could she offer a place to stay for you?
You deserve not to live in fear, you deserve to be cared for and loved and above all else, you deserve to be SAFE.
Would you like me to gather some resources and places you can call to explore your options?
Nik
01 Apr 2016 04:52 PM
01 Apr 2016 04:52 PM
Hi @artee
Hope you are managing. Try and find some connections in real life. At the forum, we can only do so much. I echo the others .. you deserve some safety and quality of life.
02 Apr 2016 06:48 PM
02 Apr 2016 06:48 PM
Thanks for your concern @Appleblossom & @NikNik
I am OK. I work very hard to make friends and to keep friends. Not easy while not staying in one place, which is also why we completely fall through the cracks for help and support. The agencies can't help much when we aren't in one place for more than a week or two.
That is going to change. We have purchased a block of land and will put a house on it in a couple of months. It might still take about five or six months before we can move in. He will be given the choice of joining in the community, getting some care, allowing me respite and behaving himself or going into full time care.
That causes issues with hubby. He is very threatened by the thought of being in the one place (he still insists we must be in hiding). His behaviour around others is very, very different to how he behaves around me, which I find interesting. It means he does know exactly what he's doing and how unaccpetable his behaviours are.
04 Apr 2016 08:38 AM
04 Apr 2016 08:38 AM
That's a huge step @artee !
Keep us updated on how you're going 🙂
30 Aug 2016 10:02 PM
30 Aug 2016 10:02 PM
31 Aug 2016 11:29 AM
31 Aug 2016 11:29 AM
@STAY_CALM thanks for your response. It's very detailed and will be very helpful. For now though, we're still itinerant in a caravan. There is no 'home' for anyone to come and assess hubby, and no regular community to put him into programs, or get any care for me either. We don't have a fixed address and spend our time between housesitting and our caravan, often free camping, saving up as much money as possible, so I can have all those things shortly. We will be in a fixed location by Christmas, then I will be contacting everyone, to find out what help I can get and the community we're moving to has already proven to be very supportive and friendly. Even before our house gets to our block, we've made friends with neighbours and been asked to join community groups when we arrive.
31 Aug 2016 11:50 AM
31 Aug 2016 11:50 AM
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