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12 Mar 2017 01:15 PM
12 Mar 2017 01:15 PM
Hi @Shaz51
You are doing well with so many lunches and dinners and so many people. Trust it does not tire you and mr Shaz too much and you can really enjoy the time with family.
12 Mar 2017 02:19 PM
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12 Mar 2017 02:48 PM
12 Mar 2017 02:48 PM
Thanks @Determined, @Former-Member
Came home at 1pm, very tired
Hubby is now asleep
Got a BBQ tonight with some of the family but NOT going as it will be toooo much for hubby
Sometimes we need to be able to say No when we need too
12 Mar 2017 03:23 PM
12 Mar 2017 03:23 PM
Hello @Former-Member
Often Mr Shaz doesn't do a job very well tooo
You wrote > Is there a good way to tackle these problems as Mr Darcy can be hypersensitive?
It is tricky , I do a lot of checking without him noticing and fixing it up , sometimes he sees me and says -- " I have Done it again" , or " I am brain dead"
and then I say it is ok , we all do it from time to time and I say what silly things I have done to try him not being soo hard on himself
and It is a bit hard when it happens when you are working
How is Mr @Former-Membergoing today xx
12 Mar 2017 08:48 PM
12 Mar 2017 08:48 PM
Hi mohill
Only thing that has changed is that I am in a better place. I found out the reasons for all this drama in the end and im not reallyt happy about it, but there seems to be nothing I can do. I am now the enemy in her eyes after doing nothing wrong what so ever.
To cut a long story short, several years ago, she witnessed an assault perpertrated on one of her friends. A few years later she was called to court as a witness to the case and her and others basically were key to getting this guy locked up.
Cut to a few years later and he gets out. Unbeknownst to me, he ads her and the others to Facebook. For a few months they were talking and in that time I guess hes found out how well we are doing these days and decided to get a piece of the action. So from what ive been told (by her cousin) he has been playing on her mental issues (paranoid schitzophrenia and PTSD) making out that some how I (the person whos looked after her for almost 10 years and got us where we were at the time) was out to get her. Im a liar, a thief, a cheat ect
In the end she cheated on me with this dude and most of her behaviour was a result of guilt. She wouldnt face me, wouldnt tell me and still cant admit it. Now the bastard lives in my house, parks in my car spot and has even taken over managing some of the family affairs... Hes there for 1 reason and 1 reson only. Get revenge for her being a witness against him.
Shes now drinking a lot. She actually rang me one morning and was all nice apologising for her behaviour ect. I was on my way to work so I couldnt talk long. She said shed ring back later that night and when she did she was drunk and feral. I had to end up blocking her number and getting my mother to finish up our affairs. Shes now giving my mum the run around.
Pretty sure this is not going to end well for her. Ive tried to warn her, ive even warned her family who are also concerned but seem to be able to do nothing. Ive given up. I spent way too long trying and it was cauing me too loose the plot myself. I cant think about it anymore. Writing this has upset me and this is the first time ive cried about it in a while, but I guess I needed to finalise the situation here and get the last bit off my chest.
It still hurts, and I still think about her every day and hope she is ok, but its no longer my main focus, im trying to get my life back together and theres a lot of other crap happening now because of how she handeled the situation. Im financially screwed now due to her taking our savings and one of my tenants (who was her best friend) just split owing 2.5k in backrent and leaving about 4k wort of damage.
Ok well this was longer than I expected, sorry guys.
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