Grief & loss - may be triggering

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Appleblossom, you doing OK?

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@AppleblossomEagles are amazing. I haven't been to the Zoo in years, I love zoos.

@Former-MemberI haven't used Skype much although it's a great idea. It's a psychologist I see, & it's a 40km round trip into the city to see her.

The grief study session is a 60km round trip. Both in one day. It's way too much driving.

Especially since my work is so far away, &and i drive clients a lot for work too.

My psych offered me a Skype session when she was off sick, but I couldn't remember my Skype account details to tell her how to - so we did a phone call session instead.

@lapses I went straight from the grief study session to the computer shop - it took me an hour to finalize the purchase. I got home without any break at 6pm & virtually collapsed.

Too much but I don't know how else I could have done it. Work gave me 2 long shifts today with virtually no notice, as they usually do. So today wouldn't have been possible.

Gee I'm almost collapsing (at work) writing this. I'm thinking of you all.

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The forum system just rejected my post, when there was nothing personal or identifyable in it.

Then it scrambled it up & added all those weird symbols to it.

I cannot edit or fix it from my phone.

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[Former-Member]

@Adge

dont be concerned how your messages look

mine sometimes sound dreadful and I am sure that I dont talk like that ...possibly automatic script..correction..thingy...****

sometimes I add something in another box underneath as you did..most of us dont care about the presentation..the nuts and bolts of your message..the nitty gritty stuff is what it is all about

gosh your travelling...do you claim for your car expenses etc... your computer?  on your tax?

it is not right that as an employee you have to do work that they require on your own computer at your own expense.

dont want to give you more headaches

hope that I didnt offend you re the grief session

take care

no need to respond from your phone

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Thanks @Former-Member I never used to claim travel expenses, or use of my own computer (& printing) on tax, but I do now. I started going to a tax agent, for the first time last year.

Work has still not approved my leave application (time off), after 3 weeks - then they tried to talk me into cancelling (because they've left it so late).

I called the union, a friend suggested it - then emailed the work manager (union said to) asking for a response within 24 hours.

Otherwise I've been unable to plan the break or book anything, & I'm worried about it. The union Rep said it's an occupational health & safety issue - since I haven't had anywhere near enough time off, over the past 6 years,

Sorry, I'm exhausted, goto go to bed. Good night everyone.

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[Former-Member]

Hi @Adge, and @Former-Member and @Appleblossom

Good on you Adge for standing up for your rights - about time! We got to or we get resentful and bitter and burn out

Also, don't worry about getting posts rejected, I had it all the time for a year, use to get real upset and cry for hours.

I can / you can edit posts from mobile phone, but you have to convert the display from 'mobile' to 'desktop' site. The way to do that is:
- go to saneforums home page
- when you scrol down youll see at the very top Rt of your screen are x3 dots in a line. Tap it and a tropdown window will appear.
- select 'Request Desktop Site' and wait for it to convert (usually quick)

My phone screen is small so its fiddly using desktop but manageable with practise. Good luck🍀

[Appleblossom]

I am doing alright @Former-Member Thank you for checking on me.

Chugging along doing the things I do ... singing and the zoo

I also am writing up statements re abuse so in and out of difficult stuff .. tying it all up.

Had 3 people over tonight doing a singing session.

A bit worried about my boy though.

[Former-Member]

Hello @Appleblossom

difficult times

did you want to talk about your son?

[Appleblossom]

@Adge

Thanks @Former-Member  Sorry, we crossed over in posting.

He is down, sleeping a lot and being docile. I have been putting down a few stipulations. I worry it is too little too late, but I have a lot of things in place, so I hope he will emerge fighting fit when he is ready.

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The new computer drama continues.

Four days, several long visits to the shop (re-explaining what they promised to do & what I paid them to do - I practiced being assertive, yet it hasn't lead to a positive outcome.

I still have not seen or got to use the computer yet (after paying in full on Tuesday). I've rarely had to push so hard for something that was promised, & that was already paid for.

As the salesman agreed this afternoon, I paid them to copy things across (from the old computer) so that I would have to try to set it up & do it all myself.

Yet I am going to have to do that largely anyway, because their computer techie man either would not or could not do it.

On a positive note, I've finally had my work leave approved, after a long meeting yesterday to argue in favour of why I should have it - & a wait of nearly 4 weeks (since my leave application was submitted).

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