Living with PTSD (Potentially Triggering Material)

[eth]

Hello @Former-Member  sorry I didn't see your post until now.  I'm not here much on a Sunday.  I'm here and listening too and I also highly value your contributions to the forum.  I'm so glad you have reached out and shared what is going on for you, and to see the amazing support and reassurance being offered here.  You are an important member of our community.  I can't put it any better than others have, particularly what @Zoe7  and @Faith-and-Hope  have written.  Please stay.  

[Former-Member]

Hi everyone, 

Saw this discussion and just wanted to help address these feelings. It’s great to see all the support happening here around this too 🌟

• being moderated: can be hard and it can feel personal, we understand that inevitably when being asked to edit a post it can feel hard to not feel like you did something wrong or to even feel a little hurt. To reassure you, every time we do email a member we view it as an opportunity to collaborate by sharing information around why our guidelines exist and how you can share your story in a way that is still authentic but maintains safety, anonymity and respect. 
• process of working with members: when we notice reoccurring breaches, we will reach out to work with you on how we can better support you in your forum use and posting so that you feel better able to engage and connect
• noticing triggers: Like you have mentioned here @Former-Member, it can be really valuable for members to notice the triggers that might come up when feeling impacted when posts are moderated. On top of working with us around the forums use, it can be really beneficial to explore these triggers on a broader front with supports outside the forums as well 😊

If anyone ever feels unsure about their posts, the forums or engaging - the forums team are always happy to listen and work with you around that, so please feel free to send us an email team@saneforums.org 💙

[Zoe7]

@Former-Member 

Let us be the light that guides you now as you have always provided that light for each of us Hon 

[Owlunar]

You are a beautiful person @Former-Member  - perhaps too sensitive to this world which can be a difficult sometimes - but that doesn't change you from being the person I know and I think is someone I really want to connect with

People who treat you badly aren't worth it really - they do not deserve our time or our sorrow but having been through something different but just as painful on-line I know it can occupy our thoughts - alas - that is the nature of the on-line world - they can shut us off without reason - and I understand what you are talking about

It won't happen here though - people are well cared for here - the moderators are always watching for any unkind behaviour - and personally I am very glad for that

Sending hugs @Former-Member  - you did not deserve thatg

Caring heaps

Dec

[Former-Member]

Dear @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Bunniekins @Zoe7 @BlueBay @Maggie @Molliex @Shaz51 @Gazza75 @eth @Owlunar  @Appleblossom 

As opposed to last night, this post will be relatively brief.

Wow .... all your messages overnight and through today are sooooo appreciated.  Today I've been completely spent emotionally, and physically exhausted from lack of sleep over the past week. So its taken me a while to get back to you.

I'm really overwhelmed and deeply humbled by all your lovely understanding responses and support. I never expected that. And yet ... I should have known.  After all, you're a very special group of people, in so many ways.  I've shed lots of grateful tears throughout the day as I have read your messages. I even managed a short sleep during the afternoon, and feel a little better for having done so. Thankfully I had nothing pressing that I needed to do today, outside the home.

I still have a lot of anxious feelings around posting though.  Thanks @Former-Member  for your post here, as well as for the emails you sent to me over the past week.  Despite those emails, I have to say that I was both surprised and reassured to find this morning that I'm still here, and still have a 'live' member account.  So thank you for bearing with me. I really hope to plough through this latest setback of mine, and find a way to give something back.

For now .... thank you so very much ... all of you.

Sherry 💕

[Shaz51]

step by step my awesome friend @Former-Member 

it has been soo wonderful seeing you around this afternoon

and the wonderful support you have given me and others xxxxx

[Molliex]

🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻 @Former-Member 🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻

[Appleblossom]

@Former-Member 

It was good you expressed what you were really feeling in your long post.  The main thing I heard was your general vulnerability.  It is what PTSD does, when the most vulnerable feelings arise so may the fear of trauma replaying itself again and again.  If trauma was being excluded online then that may be where you see the threat.  I am very glad we had the edit option here.  I have edited many posts and may have been a pain in the enck to the mods if I had to "ask" every time.  I doubt I would have posted so much ... it was just one of the many design faults in that other forum.  No place with people will ever be perfect, but that does not mean we cannot really value the contacts we do have here.

You have so many major stressors;  dealing with the loss of your mother, and

caring for an unwell  partner often means they always are the "needy" one, the real sense of partnership and your genuine needs often swept under the carpet.

I appreciate your general presence here on th forum.  I feel the world is a better place when I read others being supported.  It helps guard me from despair. Just how you are; whether it be the VERY BIG NURTURING side of you or the needy side.

i miss people who slip away ... today I chatted to a tradey who felt that way about his last place of residence .. people changing places too quickly ... socially many people feel these days are unstable ... yes we know change is a constant ... but the rates of change matter ...

Hugs for just being you dear Sherry.

[Bunniekins]

@Former-Member 

[Faith-and-Hope]

💜💐💕👋💐💕💜 @Former-Member  .....