My truth

[Nay69]

@Faith-and-Hope

I appreciate you and your advice always.

 I am going to put the things you have told me into practice first thing tomorrow......

I think that your advice will be just fine :ok_hand:💐

How are your visitors going? 

I know now things can get pretty hectic when visitors come so I hope you are taking care of you❤️

[Faith-and-Hope]

My visitors are extended family ..... they take good care of me and each other @Nay69 .... it’s a real blessing to have them here, and they are not staying with us, but close by.

[Appleblossom]

Glad your visitors are value adding rather than draining. @Faith-and-Hope  

@Nay69

No worries about taking time to reply.  When I first began on the forum I was happy getting a reply a week later.  There was not as much traffic ...

I can relate to running around for family.

I recently saw an article dissing workplace bullying and stating that it is no longer acceptable in 2018.  True leadership skills are more important ... 

It is sad and shows how much impact one badly behaved person can have in any situation.  It does help when we can recognise they are hostile, minimise exposure and reduce negative impacts.  

I am not very good at such things.  In the past I got too confused in deciding whether I had to change, work harder, forgive them etc.  My head was pretty done in by my mother.

I managed it by largely working on my own for 25 years, running small private studio. If they liked me, they paid and showed up each week.  That helped my self esteem a lot.

At the moment I have found a larger volunteering  "workplace" that has a good culture and it makes a huge difference.

Faith has a lot more tips at managing things socially than I.  I am a bit aspie, with a social side, but not very good at it.  In a way I "came out" for the first time in this forum and have learned heaps.

I noticed you are very supportive on here.  I hope you stay.

[Nay69]

@Appleblossum

I sincerely appreciate your support and I will guarantee that I am not going to leave you all. You have all been a rock to me which is the one thing I have needed since I lost my beautiful dad
Big hugs 🤗❤️

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Nay69 .... 🖐💕

Just checking in.  How's it going ?

[Nay69]

Hi there my beautiful friend 💐❤️

I am going okay @Faith-and-Hope.

I have had a really hard week but I am resolved to deal with the toxic situation that I find myself in.

Life has dealt me a bad hand and I am now ready to accept it.

I never knew what it was like to have friends that I could reach out to and have them reach back to me because they were hurting too.

You are precious x

Just wanted to check in and say hi 👋 ❤️

[Nay69]

Hi @Appleblossum

Just checking in to say hi.

How are you my friend 💐

[Faith-and-Hope]

Good to see you @Nay69 .... 👋💕

 I am sorry to hear you have had a difficult week.  If it’s a roller coaster you’re on, and I expect it is, then life is careering up and down for you at some speed and regularity ..... so you begin to “expect the unexpected” and remain in that hypervigilant state of being ready to manage whatever arises as best you can ... moment to moment, or event to event.

It’s a hard way to live, and it wears you down .....

Are you managing some self-care moments and strategies ?  There is a thread on Carers Forum with suggestions here

💜💐

[rzs7yk]

Please accept this cartoon as a kind way to suggest the next step...

[Nay69]

Good morning my beautiful friend @Faith/and-hope 

You are right to say that I am currently on a roller coaster .

 I couldn’t have put it better myself.

 I am going to try and tackle today head on and just be happy knowing that I have done a good job 👍 in what I achieve.

My sweet girl is having the time of her life after one week of filming the mini series she is in. The crew and cast are all amazing people and there is a real sense of family amongst them ❤️

I truly appreciate being able to talk to you about my life and my days x