My truth

[Nay69]

@PixieJane

Thank you for your understanding and kind words of encouragement.

 I don’t feel like drinking tonight and haven’t for a few now..,👍

This is a GOOD thing and I feel so much better for it.

How has your day been?

💐

[Nay69]

@Faith-and-Hope

Hi my beautiful friend

I have missed talking with you...

how have you been?

 I have been busy with work and my girl this week... both challenging and rewarding at the same time

Great to see you again xoxo  

[Nay69]

@nirvana99

Hi 👋💐

So nice to meet you.

Thanks for your support and good vibes x

[Nay69]

Hi @frog

So happy to see you again 💐

Thanks for your kind words for my baby girl (not a baby but you know what I mean)

How have you been going? I hope you are having a great day and surrounding yourself with love 💕 

if you are reading this then I know you are 😊❤️

[Nay69]

Hi @Appleblossom

How are you going today my friend?

 I thank you for your beautiful words for my girl and her success 💐

she had her first day on set today.... just over 9 hours.

 I was so sure she was going to walk through the door and say “mum... I don’t want to do tthis anymore “

but she was the total opposite. She was absolutely glowing and stood with such an immense amount of pride, my heart sang❤️

Tell me how you are going xoxo 

[Appleblossom]

@Nay69 Glad it was a good fit for her and she loved it.

I dropped son off at a thespian thing too. He is doing a Ferdinand. Cant say more.

our kids.

I am alright, wondered around in a lovely art market and bought some 2nd hand books and CDs, but also a little delicate so I did not want to continue going out to a book launch.

Just wanted to be home and quiet.

How are you?

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Nay69 .... 👋💕

I have been busy today with WA visitors, and will be a bit for the next couple of days, but I will popping in here when I can.

I am so pleased for your daughter ❣️

[Nay69]

@Faith-and-Hope

So happy to hear from you 😊

Enjoy the time with your friends and I will see you soon my beautiful friend xoxo 💐❤️

[Nay69]

Sorry for the late reply @Appleblossom

My day was okay I guess. Just running around doing the family things....

Isn’t it great when your kids do something so amazing and special. My heart bursts with pride for my girl ❤️

The part that is the most special is that she went out and did it herself with no fear.

 I can’t believe that after all these years, the values I have instilled have  been such a benefit to her when I thought she wasn’t listening to me.

My dad would be so proud of her right now 💕

I know he is looking in on us and I know he always will.

I’m feeling really troubled about my work at the moment. 2 people quit in 1 day and I have never seen so much turmoil.

My job has been a great place to be for many years but there is 1 person in particular that is making life difficult for all of us at work. She is abrasive, abrupt and brings people down in front of everyone else quite a bit. She has insulted me personally about the way that I look, how I wear my clothes etc.  I would be lying if I said that it doesn’t bother me 😔

I am more concerned for the beautiful people that I work with and what they endure with her. There has been numerous official complaints about her for the past 5 years yet she still remains in her role.

Just the thought of her makes me upset inside...

She is truly a nasty woman... I know that the lord himself would not be happy with her behaviour!

Sorry to go on a different tangent, it’s just really been playing on my mind for the past week but I will get through it with you just being here for me... I have faith in everyone here💐❤️

[Faith-and-Hope]

directly There have been people like this in my life @Nay69.  The defence I found took a little bit of working out, and patience, but it worked ......

This is what I suggest .....

Limit the time you spend in their company as much as you can.  They are in a state where they damage others, and need a stronger influence than simply socialising with them to change their behaviour, so you will likely just get hurt trying, and be feeding their “power trip” in the process.  You need to try to keep them in your mental “ naughty corner” on a time out.

Be extremely polite in their company, but in a sterile, formal way.   The  politeness is above criticism ..... what can she say ?  “ She was extremely polite to me, and I didn’t like it .... “ ??

The most she can do under those circumstances is to mock you, which just makes her look ridiculous and petty.

If she says nasty things about your appearance, tell yourself that she’s not getting a Christmas card from you this year, and try to ignore the unwise behaviour, or simply respond with, “Thank you.”  She won’t know what to make of that .... and if she asks why you said thank you, you can complete your sentence with “..... for offering an opinion about my appearance.”  In doing so you are highlighting the fact that it is AN opinion amongst many possible opinions, an unsolicited one. and one not necessarily worth listening to ..... an move away with a quiet air of dignity ..... poker-faced.  Again, the worst she can do is mock you, which she is already doing, and you can ignore that innapropriately childish behaviour.

These are are just suggestions, but if others in your work environment take your cue, she will find that instead of getting under everyone’s skin, she is constantly met with a wall of indifference.

If you do choose to deal with her this way, I would suggest not mentioning it directly to anyone else in the workplace, because workplace gossip can take it back to her that you are using this strategy, and she will likely target you even more vindictively.  If anyone asks you, you can simply and honestly say that you try not to let unhelpful comments get under your skin, and remain professional about workplace relationships.   It’s another way to subtlety highlight the problem, while holding it away from you like the smelly rag that it is.

I hope this helps.  If it’s not a solution that suits you, it might promote your own thinking to come up with a response that isolates the behaviour, and creates a shield against its darts for yourself.

💜