Coming to terms with reality

[eudemonism]

Im contemplating what is going on in my life. And why i do what i do. And what is going to be best for me. And how to make it happen.

I am tired of drinking and smoking. And going in and out of cycles of using. I figure it's like a culture. I have trouble saying no. And avoiding social situations which induce drinking.

@Adek im hearing what youre saying about christianity. I grew up in a religious family. And i attend church on a regular basis. And its helped me with the message of forgiveness. Which is more then id expect from the majority of interpersonal relationships with people i know. I enjoy the social aspect of church and gathering together and eating with other people. Where there is a strong message of forgiveness among other things. It's like, i now forgive everyone for everything that has happened to me. Because i have been forgiven for everything wrong that i have done. And it comes back upon me through karmic energy and allows me to get on with life and not be weighed down with guilt, shame, embarrassment and fear. And it don't mean i intentionally set out to do the wrong thing. That's for sure. What religion or philosophy do you practise? Because i suppose we all fear being blamed, being held accountable and taking responsibility for our actions throughput life. And i suppose we feel the same toward others.

And what do you think @Appleblossom ?

[Adek]

@eudemonism yes..all's well for mom. She lost dad at the age of 37, diagnosed the year after and now she is 72. The jabs used to be once a month those days. Then gradually its decreased to once in 3 months, now biannually. About the religion...its the 2nd top religion of the world, with 1.6 billion follower.

[Adek]

".....I think i need confirmation and assurance. That absence from substances and sobriety from alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes can be done and will lead to a better life for myself......"

I can assure u @eudemonism it is possible cuz its forbidden in my faith and its upholded by 1.6 billion people around the world. You might see people slipping from teachings of their faith but i feel thats not a way to misjudge the whole concept of a religion but instead is a personal attitude and practise..towards abiding by the rules and teachings of ones faith.

There's a famous story about a man captured and asked to choose either to murder a child, sleep with his mom or drink. Thinking of taking liqour as the least crime and not involving another innocent soul..he took the liqour but ended up committing all 3 crimes.

Think about it...

[eudemonism]

What religion is it @Adek ? Im just sitting on the couch i got from the opshop at the moment. And watching the midday movie. Its based on the civil war i think. And what nationality are your parents or grand parents from?

This afternoon im thinking if i sweep or vacuume and take the dog for a walk I will be doing pretty well. Cook myself something nice for tea and call it a day after that. Ive had a few bothersome thoughts today. But not a great deal can be done about them. So no point in worrying myself about them.

[Adek]

Yea...that sounds like a nice me-day. Am not going anywhere as well today. Made oreo cheesecake and just had ramen with kimchi for lunch...and now sitting on the rocking chair, just about to watch youtube documentary when i noticed your latest post. You seem to have a lot if questions going on in there. Are they for me? @eudemonism 🤔🤗. My grandparents, parents and me are of the same nationality, being the major official ethnic & religion of the country.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Malaysia
How about we check this out...its about some of the things u need confirmation and assurance from...i think.
https://youtu.be/rlXQ0GXl78o

[Adek]

@Former-Memberhow are you getting on? I hope you have a great weekend. A director of a mental institution once said in a 'Journey to Recovery' forum that i attended ..

" Life is a cycle..nothing in life is forever. If it rains eventually it will stop. After winter will come spring. We were once children but now we are old. We may be sick but at times we are better. We worry but later will be relieved.."

I have learnt from that..to let go of my children bit by bit...praying and asking for guidance on their behalf from God...and not being too hard on my maternal instinct. My mom in law used to say...."Need you be too tough on them? Weren't you at their age before? Have you not been tested? But did you come through it all? Do you have lessons learned?...".

Then only it struck me that i had to be on my own since 12! I believe... we have so much concern and being protective due to our past experiences. But perhaps it is time to let go. The kids are adults now and its time they face their own challenges. We are only here to guide them..more like a friend than a parent, and pray for their wellbeing. xx.

[eudemonism]

I dont have enough Internet data to watch all of the YouTube link @Adek

[eudemonism]

What are a few of your favorite quotes from the Quran? @Adek

[Adek]

Oh.. ya i forgot how high life expenses there..though not as high as in London/US. Here..with 8 Aussie dollar i get 10GB/mth. Maybe if u get to use wifi during your hospital visits u can watch it. I watched just now...a really good British speaker who elaborated on all the things u mentioned here..drug, alcohol, sex (out of marriage) and music and how it affected our lives. Wished i can summarize for you but pls pardon me am not good in writing delicate issues like this..

[eudemonism]

does syriac mean anything to Islam?