Living with Ourselves

[Bunniekins]

@Sophia1  sweet heart of course you should talk to me. we share alot with our children being so ill. Love peaxxxxx

[outlander]

@Sophia1 @Bunniekins 

[Bunniekins]

@outlander 😘

[Sophia1]

Thank you all @Bunniekins our very own sweet pea

@Appleblossom @Krishna @outlander @Anastasia @TAB @Exoplanet @Former-Member @Emelia8 @HenryX @Oaktree @Shaz51 (read somewhere that you mentioned mr shaw not sure (not shaw) if a typing mistake or not...if privacy issue..follow up my lovely lady..

@Jacquesthank you for your christmas and new year messages..I have struggled reading so many threads..

I hope that all is well with your girlfriend and mum.. would love to continue on with our friendship when we are both able to be on here ( understanding always this needs to be a consideration for both of us)

ps I listened to your advice about the gardenia @jacques and moved it out of my garden house into a different spot around the other side of the house where summer sun appears.. Leaves not that abundant after loss but have flowers.. so thank you so much for your advice...

will keep a close eye on it along with so many others....perhaps walk it around the garden as the seasons change laugh.....

recently tried my hand at indoor plants...no...not me.. did not work when younger...nothing has changed...

am currently introducing my younger son into the world of gardening...he was alarmed when some of the flowers of plants died (hmm...gently gently as @appleblossom always advises.)

introduced him into the world of pruning he was horrified...

also the bare truth that plants do not always survive alas..

@BlueBay(have been absent ...read a few of your posts and you sound as though you have achieved so much...well done...very proud of you...always knew you would...keep on believing in yourself as I must do the same..all of us really)

@Clawde

 @MDT (wow got it finally)

@ethnice to hear from you

@Mazarita 

@RedHorse(still waiting for you to write something on writing thread laugh)

@Tawny 

@Grasshopper3 

@eudemonismmy friend

@soul 

@Determined 

@chibam 

@Former-Member 

@Bow 

@StuF 

@NatureLover 

@frog 

@wellwellwellnez

@theaussiecharger

so many names that I cannot remember..

I know that you are going through your own struggles and although I am not here as often for self care reasons I do still support you silently..

Some whom I have tagged may no longer wish to be tagged..apologies there.

I sincerely wish that I could spend time in the real world even if once to meet you and offer you a smile to let you know how much you really do matter

You have all touched my heart and caught my attention at some time

I do wish this world was different ...

it is so back to front...

[Bunniekins]

@Sophia1  I to wish this world was back to front if only over a cup of tea. I consider you to be one of my dear friends and always look forward to hearing from you. You are sounding a bit tired?  Are you okay?

[Sophia1]

Hello @Bunniekins @Anastasia @Appleblossom @Krishna 

I am currently on my soap box again...

I am following through with some sort of commonality or reference to how to follow through with calling for assistance when feeling that a family member is at risk (wording of course has to be precise for them to come)(I won't and can't actually verbalise that here anyway)

I use my own language if the situation becomes dire and am trying to reinforce this with his dad...not easy)

Attempting to liaise with mental health triage, ambulance and police is nigh impossible..

Has a whole century been wiped out that I am unaware of?

I believe that there is far too much responsibility and stress placed on family members or friends not knowing when to make the call and of course using the correct language..

Then attempting to liaise with individual groups is nigh impossible.

Feelings of grief;anguish;despair even guilt already present before the decision made..

never made lightly..

What I heard today as a way to get access to emergency service blew my mind.

I am not allowed to write on here what I was told

and definitely not from which department...

I told the person that I would never say that as would not be true and am not going to lie.

I also emphasised how can we be expected to make an informed diagnosis of whether or not the person is at risk.

This is just not good enough..

This is barbaric to some extent...

My mission is to make the process as least humiliating and stressful for person concerned..

The aim is to access a safe place immediately with ongoing help for said person mandatory.

I believe that carer, family friend or whoever does have a right to check on their person..

It is even more mandatory given the current pandemic that extremely vulnerable people are moved as swiftly as physically possible through designated emergency areas..

It has to be taken into account that many vulnerable people are unaware of pandemic as it presents itself to us..

They possibly see it as chemical warfare and our country; other countries; even the world as a whole is at war which they often have predicted..

This needs to be accepted as a real crisis for them within that concept.

They must not be questioned about any virus or vaccination... many have already received involuntary injections..

this is validating their bodies...their whole person..going against their human rights..

They must be respected at first entry within the boundaries of all human safety of course. This is not to be assumed or guessed...

whoever makes the call for assistance must stress whether or not they are vaccinated and or if they have no concept of virus...this must not be forced upon them..

Every human being has a right..

Every human being deserves to be heard...

We as the public do not have the right to question another's belief..even if we do wear a uniform!

This I am following through with questioning tomorrow..

I am hoping that I will not be sent on a wild goose chase as in the past..

This will not deter me..

Everybody all over the world is spouting about the mental health of people being affected..

Message:

Listen...

System not working for existing.. take note and put strong measures and training (vital) in place..

The volumes of people suffering with mental health issues is growing...

A separate issue to virus infected...

Speak up to members of parliament

The hospitals are overcrowded with virus infected people..

I seriously hope that they have not taken over acute mental health ward beds...

[Sophia1]

Dear @Bunniekins 

how very astute..

I am worn out..

I think that I am emotionally drained as the saying goes..

yet I still listen to my son and tell him when I do not like his tone..

That often results in him ringing back informing me that I have led him to use that tone!

Well yes I know you will understand..

He is not in a good place at all and I am so worried about the set up where he is and potential volatility..

I am also worried about arranging hospitalisation as per previous post..

so much to consider...weigh up..

I have to come to terms with the fact that I can no longer save him from this world.

I cannot save myself.

I know that you struggle with this..

I have noticed that you use music..

I like a band and have forgotten their name ..they write with mental health in mind..

when I remember I will let you know..

Must go to bed now.

goodnight precious lady xxx

love you

Sophia1

[Former-Member]

Hi @S

[Sophia1]

Hi @Former-Member @Bunniekins 

The band I was trying to think of is Imagine Dragons

classified as rock pop

I do not hear any pop

I hear rock ....depth and reality..

time to say goodnight folks..

something similar to bugs bunny...

stay safe...stay you

love Sophia xx

[Former-Member]

I accidentally pressed post when I was typing @Sophia1, so I'll go with what I was trying to say.
I'm totally with you. The ment system is barbaric. Some of us are forcefully medicated without actually helping fix the ogiginal problem. I'm going into what happened with me, but I've found some assistance within the community, and even though my medical treatment in the hospital is technically correct and I'd accept this again, the issues that I wanted to address weren't addressed properly until I came home. One person (can't disclose here), explained why they and a few other people, couldn't address certain issues before discharging me, which now I kind of understand. But this mental health system is really shit, and if it was different and run better, said few people would have been able to address these problems before my hospital discharge. So it's not individuals who I don't like. It's the whole system. Some people help me in a way that would be correct in some circumstances, but not in my circumstances. It then takes two days for everybody else to get on board and divert me to the correct support systems.
I can't stand how ambulance and police won't help if we don't use specific language either. I was told to say things as well, and indicate what state I'm in as well, in case I don't get help on time. I can't say what this situation with me is either. I agree, you shouldn't have to lie about someone you know to get them professional help. It's ridiculous. I do believe some people are forced onto the wrong medications without their consent to be able to change their treatment plans, from from what I've heard of recent changes, of which I can't mention because some people will accidentally be identified so I won't say, but anyway, if you have an issue with your medical care, you can download brochures and legal documents from legal aid websites. I don't want to share exactly which ones though because I don't want others on here to be found out. I hope you get my gist without me confusing you more lol! There is a heck of a long way to go, but slowly things are getting resolved. The language barrier with emergency services is still a problem though, and I can't wait till it's fixed.
From what I read about you and your son, you sound very much like in need of a holiday lol! And I hope your son gets the help he needs. I think it's sucky that the Australian Government still isn't taking mental health seriously and putting people with mental health pro#ms in the too-hard basket. It's bloody disgusting. Even social workers and other support staff have to take the brunt of people's issues because both patients and staff aren't being listened to, and it takes several psychiatrists to twist arms in the Government to make even small changes. I will be thinking of you, if you need to chat more, please feel free to write back.