APPROACHING SURE?

[Owlunar]

Hi @Appleblossom

Way back in the past I was involved in a church - into everything and aware I was being manipulated

It's amazing how quickly manipulative people think we are manipulating them when we are doing nothing of the sort - sound familiar?

Anyway - I stayed at that church to get the content regardless of the form - but when what was happening there got too much for my silence - I spoke out - and this caused a furore - and left that church writing a letter formally thanking everyone but saying I was moving along

Where I would go now if I felt like it is fine - but I have had my moment there too - must it depends a lot on who is in charge - and strong people are not always popular

I get what you are saying - so

Attend for the content - your music - and watch the form and if required - speak out - but be aware this might bite back. But I know - I will speak out and do speak out and will suffer again in the future I am sure

It is not a comfortable thing to see so clearly - a prophet is not welcome in his own town and it seems to me you - like me - belong in the prophet class

Oh dear - the prophets of this world are required

We give people the Violent Trumbles - but we must pick out battles too Apple

You are in my thoughts - stay for the music and keep your battles for the big ones

Dec - hugs

[Appleblossom]

I am too busy (and vulnerable) for unecessary clashes.Thanks @Owlunar

 Still havent gone to the police, nor decided as feet are just touching the ground as I run at a frantic pace with all our (son & I) curent commitments.

I tend to focus on the productive forward moving things .. and the tidy up drags behind.

I am curious as there seems to be a dynamic at play in my life .. mysterious.. so i want to see how things unfold a little .. before rushing into the fray.

Thanks for wise words .. still to read sis corner report.  

Maybe after organised oven replacement & piano tuning.

[Former-Member]

I agree @Appleblossom, be firm & brisk with these people - dont be such a dag and too desperate for their approval ... (so hard with BPD, grief & lonely), a target, vulnerable - bullies do go for that... like moth to flame. Well said. What does F&H say - just be polite & sweet with them.

AND WHATS THIS...
"new hot gorgeous brilliant young conductor come up to me to chat .. and we touched on physics, schwa and personality politics in 2 mins .. like a house on fire ...
WHOOHOO... raised eyebrows... DEFINATELY "moved on to better pastures ... ... CHEEKY lol

GLAD FOR YOU APPLE, WELL DONE PERSEVERING. I AGREE WITH AVOIDING CONFLICT - ITS OVEERATED 🙂

[Appleblossom]

I do not choose conflict if other options are available.

@Owlunar I see you as having earned the rest of peaceful old age .. maybe like an respected sage, whom we can approach in time of need.  Keeping up to date from the polite distance of the internet gives you ample time to weigh experience & current issues. 

@Former-Member Funny ha ha .. not really cheeky tho.

I had no clue how things would turn out. Even early January I was still calling the CATT team .. but putting foot forward for next step and following through on previously made plans.

Thanks for walking with me on this. my sion was a bit scared cos though he knew I may have struggling emotionally, I dont think he realised how much.

[Former-Member]

😘 @Appleblossom. I hope things keep going forward with positive steps building on the last. Sorry I'm probably not going to make sense as I'm really tired but wanted to say your making your new path and it's bringing you some joy and new found success. Perhaps old plans are changed altered to keep you moving in a positive way forward. You don't always need to be the one who makes the stand if it isn't helpful for you. If it makes you stronger to fight for your happiness/personal success and then enables you to take a stand in a much better place that seems positive too, win- win. I hope I'm not off the mark. I may be. I really shouldn't be posting as my brain is frazzled. Really just wanted to add my support. Sending hugs  💜🤗

[Appleblossom]

Your support matters @Former-Member and made sense .. 

Thanks

Go easy on you

[Former-Member]

Hi @AppleblossomAppleblossom How are you today. Only just caught up on all your likes, thank you )only get them once a day in a daily digest email listing, because we its too overwhelming for me if they come here there and everywhere popups all day). Thanks for your help and spot on insight re my son, its so hard not to worry about them. How was your sons Matine? Is this the best thread to catch you. Anyway, eyes are packing in soon, just wanted to say hi. Oh, still trying to work out what your new profile pic is (on my tinyvphone screen), certainly different. Maybe next time I'm at the library. Bug hugz sista xox

[Appleblossom]

I needed that bear hug sista

Son show was fabulous.  

The day was a little marred by crabby 80 year old know it all and high flyer, but I am learning to treat her like an annoying mosquito. She has been the best option in my local area for my son. Gotta be practical even she directly insults him and I quietly in my ear and tries to play mind games. At least I called her out on being an ego-maniac last night.  She knows she is. So I cant be called two-faced.

Flowers to cheer me up too.

[Former-Member]

Hi @Appleblossom just popped over to say hi, love the flower pic you posted 11th, missed it, re notifications, pretty pastels, live the blues. That grumpy 80yo sounds like a pain, gotta find someone better than that grr. Hope you're feeling better singe 11th. I've been on a rollercoaster this week, got your post on STM thread (mine, there's two now), catch up soon. Chin up xox

[Appleblossom]

Lovely to hear from you and read those life lessons. @Former-Member

I am a bit triggered atm so need to be careful. Not being helpful and out & about on forums, as I need to be contracted and small. I had a reasonable day at the Lions doing my new vollie role at th zoo.  

I came online late tonight as I was in a lot of turmoil because of my brother & sister.

Then first thing I read 10 ins ago was that a younger girl cousin had died 10 mins ago.  Her health had been vulnerable and she had the hardest life 6 kids. RIP cuz

I told bro that I would phone hospital if they were going to send him home, as I did not think he was well enough. Today he said they were going to send him to hospice rather than home, which I think is a wise move.

lol ... Funny that about sleeping and there needing to be threads about it.  Today I learned that adult male lions sleep around 20 hours per day ...