Being misstreated

[Alessandra1992]

Hey @PeppiPatty
One step at a time, really glad you have contacted the friendly police officer, don't hesitate to call him either as sometimes people's email boxes get so full he may not see your email..especially if he has been away from his desk..
How is Arlo? He would be such a comfort during these stressful days..
More gentle hugs and peaceful walks with arlo (or a tummy rub if the weather is wet and windy)

[PeppiPatty]

@Former-Member and @Allexandra1992

Sandy and LisaJane,

thank you for your messages. It's been interesting living without Sane Forums and going through this difficult time.
I needed to decide how to do this in an Anne way but have missed you all. My decision was to slowly get support to get a quick move
I've got support letters And the move request in. I've emailed the policeman who has asked me to contact him.



The difficult time is slow....he's sitting right here.....I feel like screaming because I do not want this but when I've gone through restraining order, calling police, asking friends to get him to leave......he just will not go.
I don't have the strength to have this stand up and tell him to leave constantly. My GP, when writing a letter in support for me to move.........told me I have no emotional reserve to deal with this.
It's true. why can't I gently ask him to leave, he gets up and quietly gets his things and goes.
Just go.
not the absolute fury and anger that he has shown in the past. It takes me days and days to get over.

[Former-Member]

Hi @PeppiPatty

It sounds like you are going through a very stressful and emotional time.

I wanted to make sure that you have some people around you supporting you. It's great your accessing your GP and you have been in contact with a Police officer in regard to your situation. 

Outlanderali

[PeppiPatty]

Thank you @Former-Member

I've suffered the indignity of this interferer in my life for so long, 2 years now. I have never ever seen or faced so much verbal anger from someone in my life.
I've been blessed with my support. in that getting support from relevant people has helped me a lot.

the embarrassing thing is that I go to a community place where I live .....for the stigmatised and the key lady for homelessness has written me a letter in support for me to move quickly. But my peers are 'questioning' why I'm supposedly with him but behind the scenes, I'm getting support to move quickly.

The important things for me to keep in mind is: keep on working for me to move on and disappear.
Being reminded that I'm the scape goat in my family as well. I wonder if I was a tough muscly outspoken person, would I be in this situation?

[Jacques]

Hi @PeppiPatty

sorry for interupting, but reading you recent post i have to say you are an incredably brave person, to stand up to him and struggle for so long to be left alone, i have had the same thing happen for over 7 years, i will not go into it, but i am big and muscly and i still had abuse to the point i would not leave the back door for fear of being abused verbally.

you are doing the right thing by just getting away, i was never in a situation to get away (luckily the person abusing me left) but you sound like you have a great support group and please do not listen to people judging you, they are not in a position to comment if they have not experianced abuse.

Take Care and i wish you all the best

Jacques

[Troubled_One]

Anne, i hope you get through this and safely.

Being tough and muscly I wish to and I was one day, but now I am cripple, but sometimes it is a blessing in dissguise. Hopefully in the end it works out for you. 🙂

Lee.

[PeppiPatty]

Hey @Jacques and @Lee,

I've been laughed at by some ineffectual police people .
My family have no understanding why I choose to live like I do anyway. But to tell the truth where were they when I was being a scape goat when in other places, like my dad bulling me out of my home??

[PeppiPatty]

Hi @Jacques, @Ellie

Thanks. It's certainly made me realise how old I'm getting. I've been told I look younger than my years but
1: young police people being swayed by his speech re; she has MI
2. My family not wanting to know ( I'm too old for this .....I've asked for it)

You know, I've had to endure 18 months to two years of disgusting bad behaviour. now, he has quit drinking. He expects me to just forget about the past and move on.
But now, I'm having to put up with withdrawals.

It makes me feel.......how can I expect change from Anyone if they don't know what they do to others??

[kato]

@PeppiPatty

Hello Justanother47yr, i apologise for not responding sooner, altho i am glad to see many others have been writing, regarding what you have been going through, it sounds truely hrrendous that you are feeling enclosed, and not getting the required assisstance regarding your stalker, it must be quite draining, but on the plus side from what i have read it sounds like you have some really good people helping to get things moving to assist in relocating away from him,

you have always had the good intentions to write to me when i am down or low, so i repay the honor

Stay strong, i imagine it must be daunting, try and keep the police in the loop, i understand you have an intervention order surely that would suffice removing him from your property. i hope you are doing well

[Jacques]

Hi @PeppiPatty

i have found in my own experiances that people whom do not suffer from a mental illness will never understand what it is like.

family don't get me started, i have been called a dole bludger from family and mums friends for a long time because of my MI, people can be so cruel, but i am glad you have reached out here, we all understand and will help anyway we can.

i know through bitter experiance the torment of psycological torture, and it is torture what he has done, and you are right you can't forget the past, i have never been able to move on and still suffer shaking when i see the person who did this to me.

you have made the right decision to move on, your health is more important than anything or anyone.

i hope things go well for you and you are able to start anew.

Take Care.

Jacques