Dealing with a problem creatively

[CherryBomb]

Hi @PeppiPatty

I hope you're ok and safe. Your situation sounds stressful. It's never ok for someone to be abusive towards you. Are you safe? Has he left?

Sending you cyber hugs

CB

[Troubled_One]

Anne, you are getting through to me. I love the approach you are taking here.

I am starting to get this thing in my head now.

I am glad you are working through your problems. i will leave you a little note over in my thread.

[PeppiPatty]

Okay, Hello ,

It's really a nightmare but today, I took my neighbour and friend from upstairs out for the day......she has spent the last month or two struggling and sitting in her home. I took her out today down the beach to take Arlo for a run and then for coffee and shopping.

Arlo is always happy. Woof woof!!

then went to see my ex husband which was very nice.

I did one thing, I got another support letter to move and received an email from ROUH. They're happy to offer me 5 sessions of counselling...this is what I specifically asked for ( great) to make sure I stay on the path.

yes, yes, I feel like people are taking interest in me but haven't heard from the policeman.
I've told the stalker I have never wanted him near me and received some awful texts and phone recordings. then an apology and he has promised to live in another state to get away from my...............

so, will take letter into Department of Housing, call ROUH and just keep on plugging on.

[CherryBomb]

Sorry to hear that things are nightmare-ish @PeppiPatty

Good to hear that you're taking Arlo out and looking after you though.

So your ex is moving out or he has moved out?

[PeppiPatty]

My ex? From a long time ago. I got a   supportletter which said that my daily mental nealth is affected from his stalking and though i have done all the -right things..?...he is still here affecting me.

While on Sane forums:  

After reading some messages again and some ...present day ones.... i spoke to him and  i said that i had been getting help to get away from him.

The truth to you @CherryBomb is 

That i have NO emotional reserve to keep on calling the police...going to court and keep on fighting so decided to  take another avenue.........

Tomorrow, ille drop off letter and speak to Rouh. 

Interestiingly, i saw my son who just turned 21 a few days ago.i picked him up from work and took him home. He is incredibly burnt out from living with my Mum. Hes going to fly to Europe on 29th but hes living with his friends parents for the last couple of weeks. He is looking quite unsettled which am sure il,e hear about soon.  It feminds me that no matter what us mums and dads go through, we must Always show 

GRACE

Compassion

No heavy heart but calm no matter what our age. 

Whate er we go through, we must follow through. 

Xx

[kato]

@PeppiPatty

Hello, JA,

I have been very absent these last few days/week/s not too sure, how long. i have been reading through the posts from others, and seeing all there good insights and support that you were recieving, which was good to see,

i was reading your post just now, and i have to say you have done brilliant with everything going on, you have kept your chin up so to speak, and i could read in your words that you had strength behind you as well

[Troubled_One]

anne.

i have a couple of quick questions.

First, your ex is not your stalker is it. I mean the one who you went and saw and was nice to see but is stalking you?

and, Rough is the lady from the 1800 respect, hotline, or someone else?

I can see you are doing everything right to get out of this and i am sure everone else really wants to as well.

[Baboo]

Justanother47yr I hope your son has a lovely holiday away, is he going to Europe to live or is he coming back?

[PeppiPatty]

Wow, thanks Baboo. 

My youngest son is staying with his friends parents...heaven knows what hes said to them to let them take him in.

Hes been very rude to me in the past 4 years.........its okay because we were very close until he was 16 because he was so ill . 

I hope this holiday gives him some perspective. My feeling is that hes got a lot of pain to sort through :

His father rejected him and his brother when he was about 15 years old. His father rang him and asked for him to pay back all his maitena ce  

He is going to europe but dont know for how long. Probably for 4 weeks. Probably, My mum has spent years in his life being pretty  nasty about me to him.

My poor Mum doesnt  know herself at all. She has taken all her bad thoughts about herself on me for years. She has only stopped siNce last august when i said to her shes affecting my daily mental health but she wouldnt have stopped with her speach to my poor son.

[Baboo]

You know what i say Justanother47yr,

I say write your son a letter about how much you love him, in your own handwriting. Then, no matter the things that happen that you cant change or have power over wont matter- you have told him you love him, and always will.

People can be cruel, its some thing i have always never understood. But dont let it change your kind soul or loving heart.

What is some thing your looking forward to this week? Im looking forward to attending a kids party this weekend and seeing a few faces i haven't seen in a while. It will be loud and crazy and fun and germy lol i bet ill come home with a new cold to share.

Baboo