Frank Discussion of BPD: *WARNING* May be confronting

[Former-Member]

Try being diagnosed with two personality disorders :face_with_rolling_eyes: DPD with BPD traits. Hospital only reads BPD on my file though. There is so much joy with this...NOT. I was told they didn't diagnose BPD because I'd had too many long term relationships and no childhood trauma. 

Sorry just jumping in when I probably shouldn't be. 

[Former-Member]

Yeah, I know right. BP traits (BPD as in borderline). I get sad. I get scared. I react sometimes. I can have difficulty controlling my emotions. I have a fairly intense desire to not feel the increible pain that has come from signficant loss and sometimes this can manifest as SI. All these words to me mean that I am human and I have feelings and I have been hurt. That's all. 

[Former-Member]

For me @Former-Member.. it was my partner's BPD diagnosis...  or rather I believe mis-diagnosis.  That is what made me start researching how it was diagnosed and then I discovered there is an argument even inside they psychology/psychiatrist faculty itself about BPD diagnosing and a push for the paramaters to be tightened and more clearly defined.

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member - if this is a safe place for you then I am super happy you are here joining this with us

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member  No you should definitely be jumping in.. please do jump in.  would love your views and experiences.  Please.

[Former-Member]

I don't have an issue with labels but these ones seem to be used against us. Just my opinion. 

[Former-Member]

see @Former-Member  there's that BPD Traits ...   sooo annoying!   Does it annoy you or do you find it helpful?

[Former-Member]

 What do you think your would be a better fit for your partner @Former-Member (if you don't mind me asking)

[Former-Member]

I'll do my likes later.. because it takes me 5 mins to do a darn like!  

@Former-Member   see ... now that's crazy...  I mean that colloquial usage... I mean..  when under stress who doesn't react like that?   Doesn't mean you have BPD necessarily.. mean you have emotions like a human being is supposed to have.  That's the part that irritates me about BP Traits.   What are we supposed to be robots now?  Is that why we get meds to have chemical labotomies?

BUT people who really have BPD need help, they need to be able to learn how to control their emotions swings because those are dominating their lives.  That's a different issue than reacting because of a genuinely frustrating situation or cicumstance or a triggered stressful situation.

[Former-Member]

I hate the label. I understand the issues for me relating to it. No emotion regulation, complete fear of abandonment, impulsiveness (not so much now) SH and SI, inability to deal with anger (for me it gets turned inward), no sense of identity, emotional detachment. I get my DPD stuff which much of it overlaps.  But the labels mean you don't get treated as a person anymore just a diagnosis.