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[Former-Member]

Thanks @Mazarita - I don't understand family court it's just a nightmare. Tomorrow is the outcome of his appeal from being convicted of stuff in criminal court against me, I don't know how I'll cope if he is squirted of that or if they order a retrial - I can't go thru it again. Then fam court next week.
I'm exhausted from life.

[PeppiPatty]

Dearest @Former-Member
My darling friend ..... I imagine we are there for you, I will be ..... Playing with your daughter ..... get a simple picture and thread it oh I know what it's called ...... Blow paint on paper using plastic straws

What your ex is doing Will come out ...... They will remember when they are older. You are brilliant speaking positively about their father.
It's so difficult I know. I wish I could be there but we are here ..... Just a little different and a little more ' cleaner....' That is no washing dishes because we have been drinking coffee and eating bickies ..... Mm mm I love eating buiscuts ....

It is very very silly your ex doing this to your daughter. Girls / women feel things sometimes so much deeper ..... I dearly wish you could have a Lord of the Rings moment and look in a glass stone and see how well your daughter will be doing with your good parenting.
I looked up online the NIDIS program and there is a contact section. Can you do this ?
It seems pretty easy to do. There's also another question and explaining section. Can a Support Worker help you with this ?

[Mazarita]

All you need to do at this moment is keep breathing in and out... and talk more if you like, we're listening... or get some sleep if you can... I'm here drinking milo in my nightie...

[PeppiPatty]

@Maritza is right.

@Maritza you are so clever

[Former-Member]

Thank u both
Going to try to sleep, just resettled my lil boy. I hope I both get some sleep,
Lj

[Appleblossom]

Hi @Former-Member

I've been wondering how you are. You dont need to post unless you have time.  Are you sure work was as bad as you thought?  Did you get feedback from the school?

I think you were amazing to go either way. 

I do know that when in authority at school some kids smell vulnerablity and act up ... there are the ones who are always terrific ...

Just conserve and care for yourself and kids ... Life's a marathon not the 100m sprint.

If you can do it fine.  If you cant do it ... its fine too ... it doesnt mean YOU are not capable ... its more of a timing thing ... just keep giving yourself self respect for everything you DO.

Good luck with family court.

Yes, like the others ... I am here for you ...

[Former-Member]

I need a switch for my brain - on and off and maybe a go slower one too. I need sleep!! I need a new head without this headache too actually. And answers to what on earth happened on Friday 😖

[Appleblossom]

Yes I agree @Former-Member... speed it up .. slow it down ... we need brain thermo/ speedo/stats ...

When I was young I was pressured to focus and concentrate so I could spew out maths solutions at a fast rate and read and analyse copious amounts of text.

Then its learn to meditate ... to slow it all down.  Cant THEY make up their minds??

Dont you have appointment with your legal team?  They cant keep you in dark, if you are involved, can they?

I am not good with the whole legal rights thing.

[Former-Member]

As the 'victim' you're not really part of the process at all.. Just a witness for the prosecution.

I'm really tired of going through all this stuff, not sure how to keep going

[Mazarita]

Hi @Former-Member,

I've been thinking of you and your feelings about last week when you did a day at work. Though I don't know the details, I get that it has bothered you a lot. I'm thinking that, because you don't have the option of slowly resuming work after a long break, it's maybe just naturally hitting you all at once in an overwhelming way. Remember that it was just day one, possibly the hardest of all. It seems possible that, if you can go in again not expecting to be straight away as comfortable or in control of the situation as you have previously been used to, you may with a bit of time acclimatise to the work environment again and refind that place of comfort you have had at other times. I think you may have described earlier this move back to work as riding by the seat of your pants. I guess that's likely to be a bumpy ride, though I wish it wasn't that way for you. I do admire your courage through everything, whether you return to work or not next year.