Loneliness

[User1922939]

Hi guys I struggle severely with anxiety to the point where it effects nearly every faucet of my life. But the biggest complication to anxiety for me is the panic I have at the thought of being alone. I feel physically sick at the thought of being alone and when I am alone I always feel overwhelmed and anxious to the point where I barely sleep and when I am alone I am finding self-destructive ways to cope. Does anyone know why this might be and how I can get through these intense panic attacks and anxious thoughts when I’m alone. I’ve never been through anything necessarily that traumatic and I cannot make sense as to why I have such a strong resentment towards being alone. I am 20 and since I moved out of home 2 years ago I cannot shake this feeling no matter what I do. I have friends and even live with friends but the second I’m alone I am in panic and feel much more anxious. Please help!! 

[NatureLover]

Hi and welcome, @User1922939 , it's good you've joined. 

I'm sorry to hear about the severe anxiety and panic when you're alone. 😞

I'm wondering if you have any professional support, like a trusted GP, counsellor or psychologist who could give you strategies to cope? 

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[Appleblossom]

@User1922939 

Welcome to the forum.

There can be many images which show the only way to have fun is 'with people.'

I have been a bit the opposite and sometimes the trick is to embrace ... the pain of aloneness ... and push through it ... maybe you can only do it in small bits.

Maybe do some research about the positive effects of solitude and ways to manage powerful emotions.  Finding a therapist may help.  Meditation helped me.  In the end I have come to see my aloneness as a strength, even though I also yearn for good company.

In the long term view Everyone has to deal with being alone, and taking stock of themselves, their life and circumstances and make the best they can.

The meditation I found best is called ... metta ... loving kindness .... where you view yoursel

f and all beings with loving kindness.

 Though I would post a pic ... if it is helpful use it ... if you dont like it ... ignore it.

Take Care