Dear @Rick 

Thinking of you and praying for you at this difficult time - it is SO distressing when stuff like this happens. Trying to confront it in a mature adult fashion when you are carrying an internal raging abused child is terribly difficult. So courage and compassion my friend, for both of you. It's ok to tell him you were/are distressed and angry about it. That's just honest.

I hope you are able to work it out...

For which hope endures!

Kindest regards,

Kristin

PS Which reminds me - I have been meaning to post a prayer for you - you may be familiar with it (or not). I have prayed this so many times over the last 15 or so years, and I love it. It is painful at times, but it helps too. I found out on the weekend that John Wesley wrote it (though the language is a slightly more modern version).

I am no longer my own, but yours.

Put me to what you will, rank me with whom you will.

Put me to doing, put me to suffering;

let me be employed for you or laid aside for you:

exalted for you or brought low for you;

let me be full, let me be empty;

let me have all things, let me have nothing;

I freely and wholeheartedly yield all things to your pleasure and disposl.

And now, glorious and blessed God,

Creator, Redeemer and Sustainer,

you are mine and I am yours.

May it be so forever, to the glory and praise of your name. Amen.