Hi @Appleblossom

You are right - special rituals take a lot of emotional energy right at a time when I can least afford the energy - and I don't forget anyone - at all

I don't do anything about my son's anniversary either - I think of him everyday and every anniversary is another year past and this lost child has so many memories attached to him - I like to remember his last birthday when my daughter and I worked together to get him a jacket from disposals and sew Heavy Metals pics on it - and he was thrilled to bits with that jacket - he really was

But it was a strange thing - on my parents' wedding anniversary I missed my Dad a lot but not my mother - and he has been gone longer. I used to be the chip off the old block now I am the proud being called the old block I think

Thanks Apple

Dec