How are you today 

I'm sorry for the passing of your Father. It's so sad that your going through conflicting emotions  but 

Can I ask you to be strong and go.

I know very little about the grieving process and hope that someone else knows the stages but heard that often families can 'fall apart,' after a major death like your Father......for a couple of years.

What do you think that your father would like?

Are you strong enough to carry out what you feel would be his wishes??

DO you think that you could go and make it a bit of an activity .....to be a strong person to remember good times with your father???

I read in a magazine of everyone putting a compliment of another in a hat and then, drawing out the compliments before the meal ....Im wondering if you could get this happening with the family.......giving each other compliments while your going through this terrible time.

I really can't imagine what your going through., am so sorry............... but I do know that  being positive is the only way through.