@CarersHelpline Yes that is very true. This has been going on for several years but I feel I have to let go now, as no matter what I've offered, he has thrown back in my face. He is the one that needs to WANT change. I certainly can't insist he get better because that will make me feel better. I have developed a wall around me this time which I have to otherwise I inadvertently give in to his rather clever emotional manipulation.