I find when it is Christmas there is so much pressure about family events. There is lots of emotions that come up including avoidance from both the carer and one being cared for.

What I find best is clear communication about what you want, both to the one you care for and to family. And you can't please everyone.

Compromise is also another good thing. Maybe one year you do what the carer wants and the next year you do what the person being cared for wants.

I have had to learn that the hard way as it has always been what the one being cared for wants. The carer's needs were not being met.