Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

[Janna]

I think these things would help @NikNik if we remained consciously aware of them.  We tend to completely overlook self-care things because we become trapped in the care giving role and don't stop to consider these things.  And yes they do take effort, time, etc. which feels too hard.  I personally believe I had good self-care in place and still got burnt out, mainly because I wasn't tuned in to how tired and overextended I was despite the self-care.  I think it's about being in tune with how you really feel and then using a variety of strategies to prevent burnout.

[Determined]

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@Jen02 wrote:
It can be hard to find balance or practice self care if you're doing it solo 😐

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Agree @Jen02, I have had to work hard at accepting help and even asking for help. For a long time I tried to do it all alone so we did not have to admit how unwell my darling actually was, to ourselves or others 

[NikNik]

I hear you @Jen02
Do you mean you're caring for someone solo?

[Janna]

I think asking for help @Determined is a definite and also having the ability to say "No" sometimes.

[Shaz51]

Oh i forgot to include that we are self employed which puts a lot of pressure on me as i try to find the right balance that is not too much for my husband MI @NikNik

[Determined]

Yes learning 'NO' was a big thing for me @Janna,

Refusing to house sit for my mum at the end of last year ruffeled quite a few feathers despite my darling being fresh out of hospital.   

[Mazza1]

I have just written a self care list and stuck it on the wall. Some really basic items - rest, eat better, saying no, listen to music, watering plants, feeling my feet in the grass when things are really bad.

I need to sign off now. My first forum and it helped a lot. Thankyou everyone.

[Janna]

Glad to hear that you did it nevertheless @Determined.  I couldn't really say "No" to xmas ..... as much as I wanted to!  That festive obligation is something you have to do and probably why so many people burn out in January.

[Determined]

@Mazza1 hope to see you around some more

[Shaz51]

you are welcome @Mazza1 and I will tag you to our social thread for a cuppa when you like