My partner was originally diagnosed with bipolar. I guess it's the more "common" and "accepted" condition. What is a diagnosis anyway? Unless a doctor is observing a client over a lengthy period of time, a diagnosis is just made based on what is said, how a series of questions are answered and perhaps a couple of interactions.
Whilst I have no psych qualifications whatsoever, after extensive research and living experience, I have come to realise that he fits the description of BPD down to a tee. It's as if they were describing every facet of his being. The only thing that he doesn't exhibit is acting on suicidal thoughts. His religion dictates that suicide is the absolutely worst thing you could ever do, more so than murder so whilst he hates life he had never attempted suicide.
What I couldn't cope with was his violent nature which would come out of nowhere. It wasn't as if we argued and there was a gradual build up. It would occur when I'd least expect it and once it started it was like a bomb going off. There was absolutely nothing I could do to calm him down.
