Hi @ Jacques,
Thanks for your comments about my sons. I think if I could get a home visit that would be good - he still needs to agree cos he couldn't handle it otherwise. It's good you can share on this forum and there seems to be lovely, supportive people here. I've never seen anything rude or offensive written by you. You are trying to honestly share your thoughts and so, us readers need to accept what you say. It does distress me to hear you say there is nothing
more for you, but i don't want to discount what you are saying. We don't know what's going to happen in the next 5 minutes, let alone next year. I know it feels like Sisyphus - the Greek legend about rolling a big rock up a hill only to have it roll back and you gave to do it again!! I hope things can improve for you and that you could have one supportive friend. Take care
Yes, I know I/he/we have to act now because mental illness only gets worse when untreated for years.
My elder son was increasingly unwell from age 14 to 30 years old. I could NEVER get him to see a doctor. He went once cos the police ordered him to, but he only had to attend one session - he walked out half way. I consoled myself in those years simply in knowing he survived! I watched him decline and managed the crises. His father (a GP!) washed his hands of the situation and made comments like. "He's just lazy" or He's an adult now" ex husband doesn't help out with finances either because my son is an adult! He has 2 other children now. At first I tried to understand him but now I just have the darkest of thoughts about him ( the totally absent father! - he's sees our middle son who us doing well.
My youngest - didn't really know his dad b4 the divorce, and also was a witness to his eldest brothers behaviour which was often angry and sometimes aggressive.
Anyway, I went off on a tangent again. My approach after 30 years is paso un paso (step by step) Anyone speak spanish?